1.Do you believe in God? If
you do why?
do, I do believe in God. I do believe in God because I see God and I feel God
inside me. My God is not the one looking forward to punishing me in the end. My
God is looking at my slightest good intention and smallest effort and rewards me
by giving me strength to do better.
2. What is you
concept/experience of God?
concept of God is a biggest possible power, looking after me taking care of me.
and always asking me to listing to your heart. I have this constant dialogue
with my God, who guides me, loves me and helps me to get through the hardest
hurdles. I have been through all those problems with the help of God. This is
my experience of God. Atheist people call it this their conscience. I call it
Light of God inside me.
3.How is your belief system
different than the belief system of your family and community of origin?
belief system does not have any ritualistic values only spiritualistic values.
Everything is intention. I believe in the spiritual part of every religion.
which takes you mind and conscience to a stage where all human being are same.
all lives are Sacred and loving fellow human being is loving and pleasing God.
4.How did you become an
Atheist / Agnostic / Free Thinker / Humanist?
not believe in these categories, defined by academicians. The same person could
be all of the above and keep switching between these roles. Human mind is not
constant, it keeps changing. I have been in every category. The freest of free
thinkers sometimes have opinions not so free. They think freely within their
5.Why do you believe in a
same reason for which some people listen to their inner voice or listen to their
heart. I do not believe my religion dominates my personality. I thing my
personality dominates how I want to believe in religion.
6.Why do you practice your
preferred religion [Islam / Christianity / Judaism / Hinduism / Sikhism / Native
Spirituality etc] as opposed to not any other religious or spiritual tradition?
believe in the spirit of all the religions. All religions have the same
intention of getting closer to God by doing good deeds. To me the best possible
good deed is to be nice and just to your fellow human beings. The way I practice
my religion, I could be any religion It does not matter. It is like asking an
atheist which God you do not believe in? For the same reason those who believe
in one God, it could be any religion, they are all referring to the same God.
7.Do you believe in giving
Religious Education to children at home and in schools?
do not believe in giving religious education at school. it is only moral
education, which children learn from their role models or their parents. Not
from what they teach them but from what they see them doing. formal religious
education is mere advertising, I think.
8.Why canít we teach our
children different religious and spiritual and secular traditions as part of
history and let them decide when they become adults?
it is not a fair assumption that every religious person is non secular. We could
practice any religion and still raise very secular children. Everybody
understands and practices their respective religion with a varying degrees. I
think even now people have their own mind when it comes to following a religion.
Does not matter what they are taught. In their social circle they might say
similar things but in their hearts every body is different.
9. What are your views about
the relationship between Religion and State?
should be two totally different things. One absolutely should not influence
10. Where you do get your
guidance about your moral and ethical values?
not that hard to figure out. You do not need a book to know it is good to feed a
poor or help a person in need or do not abuse power. what you do not like for
yourself do not do to others. It is that simple. Everybody has that absolute
justice system built within. Some times we crush it and it starts
11. Are you single or
Kind of married.
12. If you are single is it
out of your own choice?
you know about the people who are always single. even though they have a
wife/husband. I am mentally single by choice. This is not that type of single
seeking partners. This single is very comfortable with himself/herself. and does
not need anyone to complement him/her.
13. What are your views
should let people alone, let them do what they are comfortable in. It is
nobody's damn business.
14. Why did you get married?
Was it an arranged or a love marriage?
dollar question, I ask myself every single day, five time. Arranged. I do not
have the slightest illusion that If I was married to this person/that person I
would not be asking this question. why did I get married? I don't know.
15. Do you believe in
platonic relationships between men and women?
only believe in reasonable relationship between men and women. Where they both
allow themselves to grow individually, for their collective growth.
16. Are you gay or lesbian?
it matter to you. What do you make of it if I say yes. and what will you make of
it if I say no.
17. Have you shared your gay
/ lesbian lifestyle with your family and community?
who believe that state and religion should be separate. also believe that their
sex lives are private. Not everyone has to know about.
18. What was the reaction of
your family and community?
was gay/Lesbian and Had I told them my family would be devastated. not because
I would burn in hell, I donít think anyone really believe that but they would
worry about their friends and relatives that what will they say. As you know we
are very hypocritical society, they would tell me ok do whatever you do, donít
say it in public.
19. What do you think of
legalizing gay and lesbian marriages in Canada?
no problem there. If it was up to me I would legalize all the relationships
where basis is love, and nullify all the loveless marriages where abuse takes
place. In my humble opinion, people are staying together for millions of
compromise Reasons but most acceptable one is I live with him/her is because I
love him/her. We all know the truth behind it but no one says anything.
20. Do you have a gay or
lesbian friend or relative?
friend was back then.
21. What do you think
different Religions and Scriptures say about gay and lesbian lifestyle?
not do most of the things according to the religions and scriptures. then why
make such a big deal about it. Judging people is Godís job not ours.
22. Are you an immigrant?
For how long have you been living outside your motherland?
more than fifteen years. My opinion has nothing to do with my living in North
America . I had this opinion when I came here. My gay/lesbian friends were
23. What do you consider the
cultural differences between the two cultures?
I do not see too much of a cultural differences. Yes there are some. I still
treat my friends from here same way I treated my friends in the country of my
Birth. I do not feel that in this country I have to behave very different. Most
of the things are same. When I help my friend he/she is very grateful. When I
betray a friend he is hurt. When I talk about my child my eyes lit up. Same is
true for my friends here. No body forces me not be religious, nobody forces me
to do adultery and do immoral or Dishonest things. I never have paid bribe to
get anything done. I do not think that to live in this country I have to become
someone else. This is the beauty of this country and I am a very proud Canadian.
I am proud of my good values and open to adapt new values. Life is simple.
24. How do you deal with
your cultural conflicts?
not see a lot of cultural conflict.
25. Are you a Creative
no anyone can be a creative person given the opportunity.
26. How do you express your
creativity [ write, paint, act or make films or in other forms] ?
write. but for myself I do not take the trouble of publishing. At the most I
tell my opinion to friends. I talk very passionately about certain issues. which
are not touched in your survey at all.
27. Do you share your
Creations with your family and community?
do. They like it and say you should have it published.
28. What are the reactions
of your family and community about your Creative Expressions?
29. Did you experience
emotional and social problems because of your Creative Personality and
No, I did not.
30. How do you cope with
those emotional and social problems?
not see a shrink. I believe all have a shrink inside of us if we open up to it.
so I do my own therapy and it works. At least I think it does.
Name: Suboohi Irfan
: In my Fourtees
of Birth: Bombay
Address: Lost in the crowd.